It seems that most people cringe at the thought of keeping tallies of who does what for whom. That seems so ungenerous, calculating, and cold-hearted. Yet, we’ve all experienced imbalanced, one-sided relationships and...
As is not unusual, this post is sparked by a conversation I just had with my husband, who I think is rather wise beyond his years. I had lain in bed this morning for probably a good hour mulling over one of my relational...
In my post How To Spot Your Hidden Agenda, I shared with you a list of 8+ hidden agenda messages such as ‘I Know It All’, ‘I’m Blameless’, and ‘I’m Helpless’ (for the full list...
You may have noticed that sometimes posts disappear from the website. You may have noticed that “When Trying To Be A Good Person Blows Up In Your Face” and “The Two Dangerous Strains of Spiritualization”...
For years, I’ve thought of and referred to myself as someone very opposed to hierarchies. In too many of my own experiences, they seemed too rigid, too unimaginative, too limiting. Hierarchies seemed robotic, cold...