My Story

Who am I?

I’m a sojourner, a student, an explorer, a seeker. I don’t claim to have any of the answers to anything, but share with you my personal interpretation of my life experiences; my ever-developing preferences and priorities; my musings; my changing thoughts, beliefs, and practices; my experiments, successes, and growing opportunities (what’s ‘failure’?!).

But, if you want to know about some labels I currently feel comfortable with, my history, or current hobbies, likes, and dislikes … well,

I am a 30-year old, recently married ‘ambivert,’ former homeschooler, dancer, firstborn, recovering perfectionist, amateur musician, German and piano instructor, ‘high-impact order seeker’, and plant-whisperer.

I grew up in a village of 3,000 in western Iowa and relished an idyllic 1950’s-style childhood. As a kid, I loved crafts, reading, theater, singing, and creating silly games with my sisters. I was named after Laura Ingalls Wilder, whose Little House On The Prairie series my Gram recorded onto cassette — my sisters and I listened to 1 side of tape every single night before bed for probably about 5 years.

In my 20’s, I lived in Europe on multiple occasions, working as an au-pair. I started college on a Piano Performance and Pre-Med double major, which was exactly as crazy as it sounds. I ended up graduating with a degree in German and Political Science — go figure. I went from being reared an evangelical Christian to a discovering myself to be more a … taoist-leaning, reverent agnostic? It’s complicated. I also changed from being a tea-party Republican to an anarcho-capitalist (wiki link). I wonder who I’ll become in my 30’s?

12339268_1647780155460722_5047968577048398147_oI love doilies, exceedingly festive holidays, apparently out-dated phrases, and making allegedly hilarious face expressions. I have approx. 47 different laughs, will be late to my own funeral, am obsessed with dental hygiene, and could make friends with a Rock.

If I could have dinner with anyone in the world, I’d select … well, I’ve narrowed it down to four people: Ron Paul, Malcolm Gladwell, Brené Brown, and Bill Bryson. If I could have a normal human ability when I wake up tomorrow, I’d pick knowing how to paint (which means I really need to start pursuing this!); for a superhuman ability, I’d pick never needing sleep.

I really love etiquette — I used to mentally devour etiquette books for fun as a young adolescent and I currently teach a class-of-sorts on manners (SO. fun.). I think the world would be a better place if people read more Emily Post and Martha Stewart, if we wrote more hand-written letters, brought hostess gifts, arranged more flowers, and threw more tea parties. And wallpaper. We need more wallpaper.

In all seriousness, I think the world would be a better place if we accepted more grey into our lives — very little is black-and-white, in my experience. I think the world would be a more peaceful, happy, functional place if we identified that most of what we like to think of ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ is simply a matter of preference. Live and let live. The world is big enough for a lot of differences. Let’s agree to not steal, damage, or destroy persons or property and leave the rest up to each individual to decide for himself — whaddaya say? 🙂

I am married to the most wonderful human being I know, who helps keep me on track with my personal development (and especially when I don’t really want him to). Kyle and I met while volunteering on the Ron Paul campaign back in 2011.  A little over 8 months ago we joined the first intentional liberty community, The Free State Project, by moving to Manchester, New Hampshire. We absolutely love it here. Finding your own tribe is a very powerful thing.

Kyle and I dream about our future, try to balance our extrovert/introvert needs, clunkily struggle through our Dragon Dances, and somehow never run out of things to talk about even though we’re with each other nearly 24/7. We’ve even just started a business together because, well, Kyle is brilliant and I have a winsome smile.

We are pretty much like old people who live in young bodies (our daily routines seriously resemble those of retired octogenarians … the daily post-dinner walks, drinking tea and reading books in matching wingback armchairs, going to bed by 9:30 … ). We also hold each other when we cry, enjoy regular tickle fests, and work hard to reach our daily hug quotas. Our struggles and successes provide much of this website’s writing material.

I’ve heard it said that we teach what we need to learn. I write to ‘teach’ you about relationships because that’s what I’m still learning about every. single. day. From our relationship with ourselves, to that with our partner, those with our family and friends, from the most healthy to the least healthy … our relationships are important, so let’s learn to make ’em count, right?

Like perhaps you, too, I didn’t have perfect parents. I had some really bad romantic relationships. Some of my dearest friends have died. Other friendships have gone up in flames. My marriage isn’t without its low points, either — for example, I miscarried our first baby. My life — like no one’s — is not without stress, painful natural consequences, sadness, and suffering.

Life so far has been a sometimes wild ride. Looking back, though, I wouldn’t change a thing because I’m where I am here, today, because of where I was yesterday and the day before. I’m still learning how to more often live out the best version of myself. I’m still learning how to love each moment, how to accept others just as they are, how to lead an existence full of purpose and positive impact. Looking forward, I’m full of hopes, dreams, intentions, and goals. No matter what comes, there will be growth and lots of it — of that I’m sure!

Thanks for joining me on my journey and for sharing your own. <3

greetings from the Black ForestBlack Forest, 2013, with friends & my future husband 12485941_1660694914169246_681429779655262943_oRockin’ a 20’s Dance Party with Rachel! Garden Party GroupLadies’ Garden Party at our Wedding Weekend!
hopscotchHopscotch for the win! 1922132_1462729623965777_3616474886982792526_nat a wine festival in Germany with the hubby 10541811_1435227250049348_2703783891060084751_nwho doesn’t need a rug beater?!
BF group photoLife is better with friends. 🙂 dancing (better)Swing dancing is one of my favoritest things EVER. 10494859_1406109996294407_1114667003395513157_nreading with my sweet nieces
12308179_1670855916522375_7391740719936128805_oGetting together with other ‘Porcupines’ swingingmy Inner Child loves to swing! nancyTime with Nancy is always too short!


I am not a psychologist, psychiatrist, counselor, doctor, pastor or really anything else professional, licensed, or certified unless you count my master’s degree in German [I wouldn’t].

For WHY I’m growing this blog community anyway, read about what I believe on the Welcome Page.

INFLUENCES: I am eternally grateful to my lifelong mentors (and pastor and licensed counselor, respectively) Tom and Jennifer Burns with Osage Creek.  Their influence on me is incalculable and I am so blessed with the guidance and support that they continue to lovingly offer me. Many of the ideas and tools that I have to share with you I originally learned from them from their decades of blood, sweat, and tears in ministry, in practice, and in boots-on-the-ground marriage.  The presented interpretations of their terms and concepts are my own, however, and so I encourage you to check out the Burns' work for yourself.  May they change your life, too!


Now that you know a bit about me, I’d love to learn about YOU. What’s your story?

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I’ll look forward to hearing from you!

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