27 Jul

10 Timeless Hostessing Courtesies

Hostessing, if it may qualify as a ‘pastime’, is one of my favorites.

Screen Shot 2016-07-27 at 11.39.46 AMGrowing up, I have very fond memories of my family hosting every Friday night (of course, maybe it wasn’t every Friday night, but that’s how my Child Brain remembers it).

Not only did we supply a delicious meal, but there was enriching, lively conversation to boot. Then, the evening would invariably be capped off with a game of cards and music performances by my sisters and me. The whole event was a true experience, each aspect carefully selected.

I still love hostessing ‘by design,’ with great care and intentionality invested in all the components of my guests’ experience in my home.

Here are some courtesy tips that I think enhance a guest’s comfort and pleasure (which, it goes without saying, should be a host or hostess’ primary goal).

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18 Jul

To Keep Love From Fading

Screen Shot 2016-07-18 at 10.30.49 AMI remember, when we were doing our 12 sessions of premarital preparation with my mentors in Nebraska, how it was impressed upon us that the various brain chemicals that produce the highs of feeling ‘in love’ — with the butterflies and the great passion and the giggly-ness, etc. — last for a maximum of 2 years.

The challenge presented was to progress from that “honeymoon stage” — when it would come to its natural end — into an even deeper connection, that of ‘oneness.’

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04 Jun

Why I Didn’t Take My Husband’s Last Name

My husband Kyle and I are rapidly approaching our 2-year anniversary, which is making me contemplative. We’ve done a lot of things in our relationship very differently — some things differently from anyone else we know.

For example, I didn’t take Kyle’s last name. lkbennett

And he also didn’t take mine.

Nor did we blend them.

Nor did we keep our own ‘maiden’ names.

Wait. So, what other option remains??

Kyle and I actually chose a new last name for both of us to share.

At the time we made this decision, we were the firsts we knew of. Since, we’ve anecdotally heard of just 3 other couples in ‘My aunt Jenny’s friend Sue’s nephew …’ sort of stories.

This was a highly unusual choice. So, why did we make it?

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02 May

‘Working Hard’ Is NOT Discipline

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What do we mean by people who ‘work hard’? Well, frequently, this seems to mean the people who are over-worked or who work harder, not smarter, if you will.

These people maybe work a 60+ hour week. They don’t have time to enjoy a game with their children, to meet their friends for supper, to savor time out in nature, to watch a play or attend a symphony. They don’t have time for their hobbies, whether it’s soccer, piano, baking, gardening, fixing cars, or yoga.

Screen Shot 2016-05-02 at 10.56.11 AMPeople who ‘work hard’ are always answering emails, constantly attached to their phones, in the office both early and staying late.

People who ‘work hard’ never let the dishes or the laundry pile up or the food in the fridge run out. They sit on 5 boards, attend every meeting, and always bring homemade cake.

People who ‘work hard’ are perpetually exhausted.

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